Hurt and Confused: My Own Version of Ms Manners

I so needed a place where I could vent, and then I remembered my blog.

I have been planning my son's 13th birthday/bar mitzvah/confirmation party for two months. I had never planned a party this big before. The list of invitations included 45 people and all but 3 came. It was alot of work as I did most of the cooking myself. We did purchase the fabulous Pierce's BBQ for the main dish. The invitations were RSVP so I wouldn't overcook or over purchase BBQ and be left with enough to feed us for a year.

For one, I don't think people know what RSVP means anymore. Let's clarify. Wikipedia defines RSVP as Répondez s'il vous plaît", a French phrase that translates to "Please respond". It is with this meaning that invitation cards and similar documents are often marked with "R.S.V.P." One very good reason for RSVP is so that the host (or hostess) in my case doesn't overcook, overorder....whatever...she's prepared. Would you believe only ONE person RSVP'd out of 42? I actually called people the week before to find out if they were coming and to confirm my food order.

My son had a wonderful time. He got to see family and friends, he got to play and be silly with lots to do and lots of gifts. He was exhausted as the evening began to approach. We still had alot of food left over as some of our guests hung around until dinner time. I offered the BBQ again and told them they were all welcome to it.

I could hardly believe it when I found out in the next few minutes that they (two families I'd known for about 10 years) decided to order pizza and have it sent to my house. I was shocked. I couldn't believe that after all my hard work my two closest friends would insult me like that and never even have the nerve to ask me if it was okay with me. Of course all the guests that were left over wanted pizza after that and I can tell you the steam was bursting out of my ears. I kept my cool until they left. I feel so offended and I am NOT someone who is easily offended. If you read this and you have an opinion...share. I'd really like to know how you would feel if this happened to you. I personally cannot imagine going to any RSVP party at anyone's house and ordering and delivering other food. What do you think?

Signed,
Hurt and Confused With Ten Tons of BBQ

http://www.pierces.com/

Sew and Sewability

Most people that know me know my love for all things feminine and frilly. I'm not talking pink lace and fru fru. I mean feminine with a touch of Jane Austen. I just discovered this http://www.sensibility.com/pattern/welcome.htm and this http://www.sensibility.com/pattern/welcome.htm.

I recently ordered a night gown from a reputable designer who shall remain nameless in this post. It was very pretty in the online pictures, but when I received it it was cheaply made (much to my surprise), thin material, ugly color etc. I had paid 70.00. for it. This may seem inexpensive to some of you and expensive to others. When I pay 70.00 for a nightgown I expect it to be quality. I sent it back. It did however evoke a curiosity in me as to whether I could create my own. I didn't like any of the patterns I had for the task. I don't know if anyone else is like me in that when you have a hankering to design something specific it consumes you. You think about it at night while you toss and turn and if you do sleep you dream about it.




The next moring and over the next few days I designed my own bed wear. I designed two gowns and a robe. It was so much fun. They even fit in with my Jane Austen visions.

Also, go over and visit http://nannybird.blogspot.com/ . She has an interesting contest going on.